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THERE ARE MANY WAYS TO SHOW SUPPORT DURING AND AFTER AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY
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If she is unexpectedly pregnant and you aren’t sure what to do, you are probably worried about her and are looking for answers. Whether she chooses parenthood, abortion or adoption, your life
will be impacted.
Whatever your situation, you can be an important part of the decision. An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t mean the end of your future plans
or those of your partner.
The woman with an unplanned pregnancy often looks to the man in her life to help with the decision. She wants to know you care and are concerned about her.
She is looking to you for support because she may not be able to confide in many people about this situation. Stand beside her in whatever way she needs. Inform her immediately that she doesn’t need to have an abortion to please you. Encourage her to make an appointment at our center and get all the information she needs to make a decision that has been thought about carefully.
We are here to help answer any questions you may have about pregnancy, abortion and related health issues. We are here for you.
When your daughter breaks the news to you, try not to overreact. Your initial response will have a
significant impact on your future relationship with your daughter. If you have already blown it, it is not too late to show her that you care. Yes, it is normal to feel shocked and disappointed. But remember that she, too, is facing an overwhelming situation. Put yourself in her shoes and try to understand her fears. Bottom line. Remain calm. Don’t burn bridges by saying something today that you might regret tomorrow. More than likely, your family is facing a future none of you had planned. However, that does not mean your world is coming to an end. Though it’s hard to imagine right this minute, good can come from this. Live one moment at a time.
Many people will offer advice, but it’s important to seek the wisdom and counsel of those who understand the unique dynamics of an unplanned pregnancy. Contact LifeChoice Pregnancy Resource Center for advice on your next steps. What you are going through is not easy. There are no simple answers. Face this situation together. Talk with each other openly and honestly, but also respect each other’s need for time and space. A family crisis has the ability to drive family members apart or draw them together.
An unexpected pregnancy can send a woman into crisis mode. If your friend just found out she is pregnant, she may not be thinking clearly, and she may feel she has no control over
anything at the moment.
Be aware of how she is responding to you. Listen to her and let her know you love her and are there for her any time she needs you. Don't pass judgment on her either interiorly or through words or body language.
When a close friend is experiencing challenging circumstances confides she is pregnant, the reaction of the first person she tells tends to set the tone for her decision-making. Avoid responding with shock or alarm, and be calm and understanding. Let her know you're there for her and that it's going to be okay. Affirm that every person's life—including her child's and her own—is precious and beautiful no matter the circumstances.
Unplanned pregnancies usually come with concerns for the present and fears for the future. Your friend may be scared to to tell her parents frightened about the reaction from her boyfriend and terrified about how the pregnancy will affect her school, job or future plans.
All this stress is likely to produce a lot of tears. Be a shoulder to cry on – literally and figuratively. Offer the support of accompanying her on doctor or even to resource center visits.
"And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love."
I Corinthians 13:13
Discovering you are pregnant brings a mix of emotions to the forefront of your life. Once you have confirmed your pregnancy through a urine or doctor's test, you might have questions about what the small life inside of you looks like.
Understanding this development process can sometimes ease the fears of facing pregnancy.
Please contact LifeChoice to learn more about stages of pregnancy and your options when facing
an unplanned pregnancy.
WEEKS 1 & 2
An egg has traveled to your fallopian tube an become fertilized with sperm. This is the beginning of your pregnancy
Your baby is a tiny ball - called a blastocyst - made from several hundred cells that are multiplying quickly.
Deep in your uterus, your baby is a living embryo and your placenta is developing.
Your baby - still a small embryo - is growing like crazy. Your body is starting to realize it is pregnant by giving you sore breasts and fatigue.
Your baby's nose, mouth, and ears are beginning to take shape. You may have morning sickness or some spotting.
Your baby is very small but forming hands and feet - and your uterus has doubled in size.
Your baby is now moving constantly, though you can't feel it.
Your baby is now almost one inch long! During these weeks, the tiny life inside you will begin to grow his or her organs, hands, and tiny tooth buds.
Nearly at the end of your first trimester, your small one's toes can curl, his or her brain is growing, and her kidneys are on their way to working full time. By now, the little one is 3 inches long.
WEEKS 14 - 20
Upon entering your second trimester, your baby's features are making different expressions. Taste buds and bones are forming, genitals are able to be seen on ultrasound, confirming if it is a boy or a girl! Ears can hear, eyebrows are present, and finally your baby looks like a human. The kicking will be noticed and probably feel like butterflies!
Full-fledged mini baby kicks are probably now felt nearly every day! Your baby is quickly growing to its birth length, long and lean. She is learning to breathe, and now that her lungs are on their way, it is good practice! Do you feel a tickly feeling? Your baby may have the hiccups. Also, she is probably closing her eyes or sucking her thumb.
Upon entering your third trimester, your baby nearly weighs four pounds, and is nearing the finish line for birth day! Over the next several weeks, she will begin to take up a lot of space in your midsection. Breathing for you may be hard, but for her - she is growing tiny lungs that will suit her upon birth. She is probably pretty snug inside as she will gain nearly an ounce per day at week 35.
In the final stages of your pregnancy, your baby's brain and lungs continue to mature. Her fists will open, close, squeeze and grasp.
At 39 weeks, she is full term and the size of a small pumpkin. She will be ready to meet everyone at 41 weeks! Your doctor or midwife will see you more often now, and keep an eye for changes in your cervix. Soon, you will meet your baby!
If you have previously faced an unplanned pregnancy and made the choice of abortion, there is hope. You may have feelings of sadness, regret, or shame, but you do not have to live with those feelings forever.
At LifeChoice Pregnancy Resource Center, our staff has resources to help you through this challenging time. Many women who have chosen abortion find hope and healing through counseling, devotionals, and education. If you are recovering from abortion, you may still be facing the long road of medical recovery as well. Our center can make referrals to community organizations and doctors who provide medical services for post-abortion procedures.
According to statistics, 43% of women of childbearing age have had an abortion. Many women and men who have experienced abortion suffer from what is called Post-Abortion Stress or "PAS"
"PAS" is a type of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and is very real. You may be someone who has been greatly affected by abortion, and we want you to know that we can help.
Please call our center to talk about support for those recovering from abortion.
LifeChoice PRC does not perform
abortions or refer for abortions.