KNOW YOUR OPTIONS
WHEN FACING AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY, THERE ARE NO QUICK AND EASY SOLUTIONS.
BECOMING AWARE OF WHAT SERVICES AND OPTIONS ARE AVAILABLE CAN HELP YOU FACE THE CHALLENGES THAT LIE AHEAD.
If you are considering parenting, we can provide you with resources and information that will help you learn all the skills you will need.
If you’re pregnant, or think you’re pregnant, it’s natural to think about parenting as an option. Something you might not have considered yet is that there are several different kinds of parenting options available.
One kind of parenting is parenting with a spouse. If you’re pregnant and already married, or pregnant and in a serious loving relationship, this may be the right option for you.
Another option would be joint-parenting, or joint-custody. This is when you and your baby’s father don’t live together, but both raise your child. Sometimes this can work well when you and your baby’s father are both committed to being in your child’s life, but marriage just isn’t right for you.
Single parenting is a common option, and one many pregnant women consider.
Even single parenting isn’t done one certain way, though. Some women live with their parents or a sibling or friend so they have help and support with their baby. Some women live independently and parent on their own.The important thing to remember is that parenting can look very different for each family, and that’s a good thing! It gives you more options, and it can help you to create a plan for your future that fits for both the child and other important goals you may want to pursue.
So why choose to parent? It can be a challenge, but it can also be incredibly rewarding. Your child, no matter what stage of pregnancy development, is already half made up of you. Parenting allows you to watch as your child grows, takes first steps, laughs, and develops interests all his/her own.
If you think parenting might be an option for you, but you have concerns about money, baby supplies, insurance or your parenting skills, there may be local help available.
Many women facing an unexpected pregnancy move immediately to the two most common options:
parenting and abortion.
But the third option, adoption, is often overlooked.
Some of this is because movies and television have misrepresented what adoption really is, and some of it is because it’s difficult to picture bringing a baby into the world and then placing that baby with another family.
You might have concerns like, “What if that family doesn’t take good care of my baby?” or, “What if I live the rest of my life wondering what happened to my child?”
Those are normal questions, but they don’t necessarily mean adoption isn’t right for you. All they prove is that you already have maternal feelings for the baby inside you.
It means that you are already becoming a loving mother, whether you will raise your child or entrust him or her to a loving adoptive family.
One thing that is helpful to know is that there are three common types of adoption: open, semi-open, and closed.
In an open adoption, you can meet and get to know the family who will be adopting your child while you are still pregnant. You will make a plan together, and it’s possible to arrange for letters, phone calls, and even face-to-face visits. As your child grows, you can continue to stay in touch and be a regular part of his or her life, if you choose.
In a semi-open adoption, you can choose the adoptive parents from a profile, most often provided to you by an adoption agency. These profiles often contain pictures, references, and a personal note from the couple to help you choose a family. Any letters or contact between you and your child would take place through your relationship with the adoption agency.
In a closed adoption, you won’t meet or have contact with the adoptive parents. This option can be preferable if you’re concerned about your privacy.
If you think you might be pregnant, and you’re looking for information on your options, abortion may be something you’re considering.
Some women feel like now isn’t a good time to have a baby, or they worry that they won’t be able to continue on in school. Because abortion is a permanent decision, it can be a good idea to take a couple of days to get as much information as you can about all your options to make the best choice for you.
Before you deal with the stress of that decision, though, it’s a good idea to make sure you’re pregnant. Many women who contact us are upset about needing to make this choice, because they are late for their period.
But there are many different things that can cause a period to be late. Things like stress, a change in diet, or a change in exercise can all have an effect on a woman’s period. To know for sure, it’s always a good idea to have a pregnancy test.
And although pregnancy tests are generally accurate, it can also be a good idea to have an ultrasound. This can tell you if your pregnancy is viable. Many pregnancies end in miscarriage, so an abortion might not be necessary.
Our center can give you a free and confidential pregnancy test. Our center doesn't perform or refer for abortions, but we have a lot of information about all your options.